The invention discloses an anti-stress fodder adjusting control agent for milk cows and a fodder containing the adjusting control agent. The fodder adjusting control agent is prepared from a pluralityof Chinese herbal raw materials, metallothionein course extract powder and alfalfa powder according to a certain proportion; and the fodder is prepared from the adjusting control agent and conventional fodder raw materials according to a certain proportion. A preparation method comprises the following steps: firstly, crushing various raw materials; secondly, adding the crushed components into solutions in a certain amount, dissolving the components, filtering the solutions, concentrating the filtrates and drying the concentrated filtrates, and obtaining extracts by separation; and finally, mixing the extracts, adding corn flour, soy bean meal and grass meal in certain proportion into the mixed extract, evenly stirring the mixture, and packing the mixture into a sealed bag for later use. The anti-stress adjusting control fodder for the milk cows has the advantages of reasonable formulation, wide raw material sources, low cost, feasible method and simple and convenient operation, avoidsadding any antibiotics or chemical medicine, has no residue or pollution, can effectively relieve the stress of the milk cows, improve the physiological function of the milk cows, particularly lactating cows, enhance the constitutions of the milk cows and improve the lactating amount of the milk cows and the quality of milk, and is particularly suitable for large-scale milk production.