The invention discloses a self-adaptive vehicle horn volume control device which comprises a diaphragm assembly, an armature piece, an outer shell, an electromagnetic coil and an adjusting resistor, the adjusting resistor comprises an annular frame, a plurality of resistors and a moving plate, the annular frame is provided with a plurality of contact holes and matching grooves, and the invention further discloses a system of the self-adaptive vehicle horn volume control device. The system comprises a control module, a sound receiving module, a setting module and an object confirmation module, the invention further discloses a method of the self-adaptive vehicle horn volume control device, the system of the self-adaptive vehicle horn volume control device is included, and the method further comprises the following steps that the object confirmation module is started; if the object exists, the control module is started to reduce the volume of the horn; if the object does not exist, the sound receiving module is started, on the basis of the prior art, by improving the horn structure, adjustment of the volume is achieved, the method is improved, and then self-adaption of the volume of the horn can be achieved.