The invention discloses a programmable optical fiber mode stimulation and coupling method, and belongs to the field of optical communication. The programmable optical fiber mode stimulation and coupling method comprises the steps that (1) a light beam given out by a first single-mode optical fiber passes through a first collimation lens; (2) the light beam is divided into polarized light in the horizontal direction and polarized light in the perpendicular direction through a polarization beam splitter, the polarized light in the horizontal direction and polarized light in the perpendicular direction pass through a Faraday activizer, a half-wave plate and silicon-based liquid crystal to be stimulated to form high-order mode light beams in sequence; (3) the high-order mode light beams are respectively reflected to be horizontally input into the polarization beam splitter, beam combination is carried out, and a combined light beam of a high-order mode is output; (4) the combined light beam is input into a beam combiner in the horizontal direction, a light beam given out by a second single-mode optical fiber passes through a second collimation lens, and is input into the beam combiner in the perpendicular direction, and the light beam and the combined light beam which is input into the beam combiner, is input into the beam combiner in the horizontal direction and is of the high-order mode are together output from the beam combiner, and enter a few-mode optical fiber after being coupled through a focusing lens. Due to the facts that phase modulation is carried out on a light field through the silicon-based liquid crystal, and the voltage of each pixel of the silicon-based liquid crystal can be controlled through programming, high-accuracy selective stimulation of any high-order mode can be achieved, and meanwhile the function of polarization multiplexing and the function of mode multiplexing can be achieved.