The invention discloses a vehicle detecting and grading method, system and equipment for an automotive intelligent headlamp. The system comprises a vehicle and a target vehicle, wherein the vehicle comprises a vehicle body controller, a vehicle body electronic stabilizing system, an engine electronic fuel injection system, an intelligent headlamp controller, a lamp and vehicle-mounted short-range communication controllers; each controller exchanges data through a CAN bus, and the lamp is connected with the vehicle body controller and the intelligent headlamp controller; the target vehicle comprises a vehicle body controller, a vehicle body electronic stabilizing system, an engine electronic fuel injection system and vehicle-mounted short-range communication controllers; and each controller exchanges data through a CAN bus. The system can be applied to scenes with relatively poor sights, can be utilized for simultaneously detecting information of multiple target vehicles, and is applicable to the detection and grading under complex road conditions; and furthermore, the processing is relatively easy, the information handling capacity is low, algorithms are simple, and requirements on hardware resources of an MCU are reduced.