The invention discloses a solid waste co-composting stepwise regulation and control system and method, and belongs to the technical field of solid waste treatment. The system is composed of a kitchen waste raw material storage device, an agricultural waste raw material storage device, a raw material regulation tank, a waste gas collection and treatment device, a uniform mixing stirrer, a composting product storage device, a reused composting product storage device, a composting reaction barrel, a ventilation device, a percolate collection device and an air distributing plate. The method comprises the following steps: adding fly ash and plant ash in kitchen wastes, composting the kitchen wastes, then adding potassium dihydrogen phosphate and ferrous sulphate, transferring and collecting a part of the composting product after the composting reaction, and transferring the other part of the composting product to the reused composting product storage device to be used as the inoculum of the follow-up composting. The method positively utilizes industrial wastes, thus the microbial activity can be improved, the stabilization time of composting can be shortened and the co-composting degradation efficiency of kitchen wastes and agricultural wastes can be increased.