The invention relates to an excrement and water separating system which is used for the urban excrement reform scheme, which belongs to the toilet matching facilities field. The excrement and water separating system is composed of an excrement tank, a footboard, a connecting rod, a hydraulic buffering time delayer, an isolating device, a water and excrement separating device, an inverted valve, and a excrement and water separating system. The footboard is installed on the excrement tank, the footboard is connected with the hydraulic buffering time delayer through the connecting rod, the isolating device is installed under the excrement tank, the bottom of the isolating device is connected with the water and excrement separating device through an water storage elbow of the excrement pipe, and the water and excrement separating device is connected with the excrement water pipe and the sewage pipe respectively. The water and the excrement of the toilet can be separated, and the human excrement is not flown into the urban domestic sewage draining pipe, to reduce the pollution degree of the domestic sewage; the human excrement is cycled and reused, and the toilet water is saved. The excrement and water separating system of the invention solves that problems that the excrement flows into the septic tank through the downcast pipe in the current city, water and excrement flow into the urban drainage pipeline, the environment is polluted, the harnessing difficulty of the domestic sewage is increased, and the high quality fertilizer resource is lost, and excrement and water separating system is specially suitable for the urban excrement reform.