The invention discloses an active excitatory grinding aid for ferronickel slag and a preparation method for the active excitatory grinding aid. The grinding aid is composed of polymeric glycol, cocoanut fatty acid diethanolamide, sodium pyrophosphate, ethyl acetate, an excitant and water, wherein the excitant is composed of calcined alunite, water glass and sodium abietate. The additive amount of the grinding aid in the ferronickel slag is 0.02-0.10% by mass of the ferronickel slag. The active excitatory grinding aid disclosed by the invention is sufficient in raw materials, simple to process and prepare, low in doping amount, stable in performance and high in cost performance. As the ferronickel slag which is ground is added, the problem that the ferronickel slag is poor in grindability can be solved. Under the condition that the grinding time is equal, the specific surface area of the ferronickel slag micropowder can be improved by 4.5-9%, the mill output is increased by over 15%, the energy consumption is remarkably reduced, and moreover, the active index of the ferronickel slag can be further improved by 10-35%.