The invention discloses a metal surface silicane treating agent containing diethanol amine. The metal surface silicane treating agent containing the diethanol amine is characterized by being a mixed solution which is prepared from following compositions of, by weight part ratio in every liter of the mixed solution, 28-35 parts of 1,2-bis (triethoxy silicon) ethane, 32-40 parts of gamma-aminopropyl triethoxy silicane, 100-160 parts of aqueous nanometer zinc oxide material, 2-3 parts of allyl alcohol, 1-2 parts of ethylene glycol, 2-3 parts of sodium tripolyphosphate, 2-4 parts of propylene glycol, 2-3 parts of zirconium tetrafluoride, 2-3 parts of diethanol amine, 2-3 parts of ammonium chloride, 1-2 parts of diethylene glycol monobutyl ether, 1-2 parts of trimethylolpropane, 0.3-0.5 part of sodium dodecyl benzene sulfonate, and the balance water. The metal surface silicane treating agent containing the diethanol amine has the advantages that, a silicane coating formed on the surface of metal after the metal is processed by using the surface silicane treating agent has good decay resistance, service life of the metal is prolonged, and a compact and firm coating is formed on the surface of the metal by combining the 1,2-bis (triethoxy silicon) ethane and the gamma-aminopropyl triethoxy silicane for use.