The invention relates to a reactive distillation-vapor permeation coupling process for the polyoxymethylene dimethyl ether synthesis. According to the coupling process, a methylal and a formaldehyde solution, a hydrous trioxymethylene, a hydrous paraformaldehyde, a hydrous gaseous formaldehyde or a mixture of substances are used as raw materials, a polyoxymethylene dimethyl ether mixed product with multiple polymerization degrees is obtained by carrying out a reaction under the action of an acidic catalyst, by the separation action of a polyoxymethylene dimethyl ether reactive distillation tower, reaction products with polymerization degrees of more than 2 are extracted out from the tower kettle, DMM2 with low polymerization degrees, unreacted methylal, reaction by-product methanol, and water in the reaction system are extracted out from the tower top, the extracted products from the tower kettle is subjected to product refining tower separation, and the target product DMM3-5 is obtained. According to the process, defects in the existing process that the target product DMM3-5 has low yield, the circulation amount in the process is large, the energy consumption is high, and the likeare solved, the reaction balance limit can be broken, the conversion rate of the raw material and the selectivity and yield of DMM3-5 are greatly improved.