The invention discloses a dication asphalt emulsifier containing ethoxy as well as a preparation method and application of the dication asphalt emulsifier. The emulsifier has a structural formula shown in the specification. The preparation method of the emulsifier comprises the following steps: dissolving fatty alcohol-polyoxyethylene ether into an organic solvent, adding a catalyst, adding sodium hydroxide after the fatty alcohol-polyoxyethylene ether is dissolved, and stirring to dissolve sodium hydroxide; adding an intermediate B after 30 minutes; performing magnetic stirring at 50-70DEG C to react for 6-12 hours; cooling to the room temperature, and then performing reduced pressure distillation, washing and carrying out suction filtration; performing vacuum drying at 40 DEG C to obtain an intermediate C; dissolving the intermediate C into the organic solvent, adding a catalyst, adding sodium hydroxide after the intermediate C is dissolved, and adding epoxy propyl-trimethyl ammonium chloride to react for 6-12 hours; and performing washing, suction filtration and drying to obtain a product. The asphalt emulsifier disclosed by the invention is low in raw material price and production cost, the preparation method is simple in process and low in reaction temperature, and the temperature needed by synthetic reaction is 40-70 DEG C. In the structural formula shown in the specification, n is equal to 12, 14, 16 or 18, and m is equal to 3, 5, 7, 9, 15, 20 or 25.