The invention discloses a pilot large-flow load control valve using a displacement and force feedback principle. The valve comprises a main valve body, a main valve sleeve, a main valve element, a feedback spring, a load pressure compensation damper, a pilot valve element, a pilot valve sleeve, a control spring, a control piston, a pilot valve body and an end cap. An oil return cavity, a load cavity, a control-sensitive cavity, a high-pressure cavity, an inner containing cavity of the pilot valve element, an oil drainage cavity and a channel communicating the load cavity and the high-pressure cavity are formed in the load control valve. The load control valve can control the load discharging speed of a hydraulic system with an exceeding load, and can effectively prevent the load speed fluctuation problem of a traditional load control valve. A vibration damping tail of the head portion of the main valve element offsets hydraulic force influences borne by the main valve element. The speed control function in load discharging and the one-way valve function in load rising are integrated on the main valve element so that the whole structure of the load control valve can be compact. The pilot valve element and the pilot valve sleeve are designed in a matched mode, so that the load control valve has a quick closing function.