The invention discloses a silicon-carbon composite material, a lithium ion battery, and a preparation method and application of the silicon-carbon composite material. The preparation method of the silicon-carbon composite material comprises the steps: uniformly mixing silicon powder and silicon monoxide powder, then mixing with a solution containing an organic carbon source dispersant, and performing wet-process ball milling to obtain a slurry; uniformly mixing the slurry, graphite and a conductive agent, and performing spray drying to obtain spherical-like particles, wherein graphite is synthetic graphite and/or intermediate-phase graphite; mixing the spherical-like particles and asphalt, performing cladding processing under the inert atmosphere to obtain a cladded material; and then performing carbonizing processing to obtain the silicon-carbon composite material, wherein silicon powder, silicon monoxide powder, graphite and asphalt respectively accounts for 5-15%, 3-10%, 45-75% and 5-40% by weight of the sum of the above materials, and the organic carbon source dispersant and the conductive agent both accounts for 0.1-2% by weight of the sum of silicon powder, silicon monoxide powder and graphite. The silicon-carbon composite material has relatively good cycle performance, and can be directly used as a cathode material of the lithium ion battery. The preparation method is simple in technology, low in cost and applicable to industrial production.