A preparation method of a tin coating protective agent for a connector lead between gold-plated plates comprises the following steps: uniformly stirring deionized water and acrylic emulsion, adding ammonium polyphosphate, pentaerythritol, melamine and titanium dioxide, uniformly stirring, grinding the obtained slurry to required fineness, adding cellulose ether and a high-temperature-resistant antioxidant, and stirring to obtain the tin coating protective agent. The tin coating protective agent comprises, by mass,10-15% of the acrylic emulsion, 25-35% of the ammonium polyphosphate, 5-15% of the pentaerythritol, 5-8% of the melamine, 10-15% of the titanium dioxide, 1-3% of the cellulose ether and 3-5% of a high-temperature-resistant antioxidant. A gold removing and tin -coating method for the connector comprises the following steps: immersing a lead part needing to be protected in a protective agent, dipping in the protective agent, airing in the air, standing and drying, cooling to room temperature, and carrying out gold-removing and tin-coating. The connector lead is immersed in deionized water, the protective agent is removed, and airing is performed at room temperature to achieve the effects of removing gold and tinning. The protective agent is reasonable and controllable in component concentration, simple and feasible in preparation method, moderate in viscosity, easy to cure, resistant to high temperature, free of corrosion to a substrate and capable of being stripped after being washed with water.