The invention discloses a ferrocenyl pyrimidine pincer ligand and a preparation method thereof and belongs to the technical field of organic synthesis. The ferrocenyl pyrimidine pincer ligand has the general formula shown in the specification, wherein X and Y are atom C or N; R1 and R2 are C1-C6 linear alkyl, -C6H5, -COCH3, -COOCH3, -CHO, -OCH3, -N(CH3)2, -CN or -COOH; R1 is connected to the ortho-position, meta-position or para-position of X; and R2 is connected to ortho-position, meta-position or para-position of Y. According to the corresponding preparation method, 2,4,6-trichloro pyrimidine, ferrocene mercuric chloride, aryl or heterocyclic aryl boric acid serve as raw materials, and the ferrocenyl pyrimidine pincer ligand of a rich structure is prepared through a stepped coupling method. The preparation method is mild in reaction conditions, wide in substrate range and high in yield. The selected raw material ferrocene mercuric chloride has high stability and high stereoselectivity in air and water, the compound can be prepared by directly mercurating ferrocene, and the operation is easy and readily available. Meanwhile, multiple asymmetric pincer structures can be conveniently obtained by utilizing the preparation method, and the ligand has wide application prospect.