The invention belongs to the technical field of welding for electrodes at spark plug sides, and discloses a control method for the welding melting amount of an electrode at a spark plug side, and a control system for realizing the method. The pressure threshold values or values of a pre-welding pressure, a welding pressure and a post-welding pressure are set in a signal control device, through thereal-time acquisition and feedback of a pressure induction device for pressures in a welding process, a signal control device carries out real-time comparison and calculation on the received pressuresignals, and flexibly controls the welding pressures in a pre-welding phase, a welding phase and a post-welding phase, and the welding melting amount of the electrode at the spark plug side is judgedby the welding pressures; and meanwhile, through arrangement for a displacement measurement device and a side electrode post-welding length measurement device, and the respective signal connection for the displacement measurement device and the side electrode post-welding length measurement device with the signal control device, a semi-closed-loop structure carrying out effective monitoring on the welding melting amount is formed as a whole. Therefore, on one hand, the outflow of defective products can be prevented, and on the other hand, a correction prompt role and guidance on equipment orparameters can be realized, product quality can be monitored in real time, and meanwhile, the production efficiency is increased.