The invention relates to an additive with a functional group double-terminated structure as well as a preparation and application of the additive. The additive has a chemical structural formula as shown in the specification, wherein n is an oxidation state of metal M and is equal to 2, 3 or 4; A is one of oxygen, sulfur, carbon, nitrogen, phosphorus and silicon, and x is larger than or equal to 0and is smaller than or equal to 10; B is one of oxygen, sulfur, carbon, nitrogen, phosphorus and silicon, and y is larger than or equal to 0 and is smaller than or equal to 10; (AxBy)m shows that atoms are connected by chemical bonds, and x and y are not zero at the same time; m is larger than or equal to 0 and is smaller than or equal to 10; z is smaller than or equal to 50; R1 and R2 are aliphatic chains, alicyclic hydrocarbons or aromatic compounds of which the carbon atom numbers do not exceed 50; and F1 and F2 are organic groups with functional groups and have different structures. The additive prepared by using the preparation method can be introduced to rubber compositions so as to comprehensively improve the hardness, wet skid resistance, dynamic mechanical property and tensile property of rubber, and even, in parts of exemplary embodiments, the rubber compositions containing the additive with the functional group double-terminated structure have improved Shore hardness, elongation at break and wet skid resistance.