The invention relates to a quaternized modified amino 
silicone oil softener and preparation and application thereof. The softener comprises the following general formula in the specification. The preparation comprises the following steps of: (1) adding octamethylcy-clotetrasiloxane into a container, adding a 
coupling agent N-beta-(aminoethyl)-gamma-aminopropyl methyl dimethoxysilane into the container dropwise, adding a tetramethyl 
ammonium hydroxide catalyst and subsequently a capping agent hexamethyl 
disiloxane into the container, and then performing reduced pressure 
distillation to obtain amino 
silicon oil; (2) dissolving the amino 
silicon oil into a 
solvent, adding the mixture into 
epichlorohydrin, stirring and heating to react under the protection of 
nitrogen, and removing the 
solvent by 
steaming to obtain an 
intermediate product; and (3) uniformly mixing N,N-dimethyl-decanamide and the 
solvent to obtain a mixture, stirring with heating, adding the 
intermediate product dropwise into the mixture under the protection of 
nitrogen, performing a thermostatic reaction, and removing the solvent by 
steaming to obtain the product. The softener of the invention has high hydrophilicity and high stability; fabric processed by the softener has excellent soft handfeel, high hydrophilicity, low yellowing, 
antibacterial property and the like; and the softener is simple to prepare and is suitable for industrial production.