The invention discloses a high-performance tensile nano-modified strong cross membrane and a preparation method thereof. The high-performance tensile nano-modified strong cross membrane comprises zirconium-modified phosphogypsum, a chloroethane cured product, a mercury nitrate solution, a sodium chloride electrolyte, a tackifier, a softener, a coupling agent and rubber. The surface of the zirconium-modified phosphogypsum has a large number of binding sites, so that the adhesion between the cross membrane and a cement base is enhanced, water permeation is prevented, the zirconium-modified phosphogypsum has hygroscopicity, the density is increased after water absorption saturation, permeation of water molecules is prevented, moisture is evaporated after drying, the density is recovered, and the durability is improved. Chloroethane is hydrolyzed to release heat to evaporate moisture and prevent the moisture from damaging the cross membrane, reaction is performed in the reverse direction after moisture evaporation, a large amount of heat is absorbed, heat on a house is taken away, and the inside of the house is cool. When the cross membrane is on fire, mercurous chloride reacts with diluted hydrochloric acid to generate a mercurous chloride film to cover a fire point, mercury ions absorb heat while oxygen is isolated, the temperature is reduced to be lower than the fire point to extinguish fire, and a fire disaster is prevented.