The invention relates to a high-density small-particle-size nickel-cobalt-manganese hydroxide and a preparing method thereof. The nickel-cobalt-manganese hydroxide and the preparing method thereof are characterized in that: the general chemical formula of the nickel-cobalt-manganese hydroxide is NixCoyMnz(OH)2, wherein the sum of the x, the y and the z is 1, the x is not more than 0.8 and not less than 0.3, the y is not more than 0.4 and not less than 0.1, and the z is not more than 0.4 and not less than 0.1. The nickel-cobalt-manganese hydroxide is provided, so that problems of small-particle-size nickel-cobalt-manganese hydroxides prepared by methods at present, namely nonuniform element distribution, poor particle appearance, loose surfaces, difficult particle size control, nonuniformity, low tap density, and the like are overcome. A complexing control crystallization coprecipitation method is adopted. By a special technical process of producing nucleuses, growing, and subjecting particles to continuous frictional collision under a continuously increased solid liquid ratio, an aqueous solution of a nickel-cobalt-manganese soluble salt and an aqueous sodium hydroxide solution are subjected to coprecipitation under complexing of ammonia to obtain the small-particle-size nickel-cobalt-manganese hydroxide having characteristics of uniform element distribution, good degree of sphericity, uniform particle size distribution and high tap density.