A low-viscosity nitrile resin monomer, a polymer and a preparation method thereof belong to the technical field of organic polymer materials. The low-viscosity nitrile resin monomer is a 4-nonyl phenoxyl-1,2-phthalonitrile resin monomer, and the nitrile resin cured material is a product obtained by heating polymerization of the nitrile resin monomer and benzoxazine-containing nitrile resin monomers. The nitrile resin monomer has good fluidity at low temperature, and is applicable to viscosity modification of general thermosetting resin. Melt blending of the nitrile resin monomer and the benzoxazine-containing nitrile resin is performed to prepare 4-nonyl phenoxyl-1,2-phthalonitrile / benzoxazine-containing nitrile resin copolymer and cured materials. The obtained 4-nonyl phenoxyl-1,2-phthalonitrile / benzoxazine-containing nitrile resin copolymer has low melting viscosity and processing temperature, and is well applicable to composite material preparation by RTM technology. The 4-nonyl phenoxyl-1,2-phthalonitrile / benzoxazine-containing nitrile resin cured material has good curing performance such as self-flame resistance, adhesion performance, heat stability, and the like, and is applicable to fields of paint, bonding agents, electronic packaging materials, aviation, aerospace, ships and resin-based composite materials. The preparation method is simple, easy to control, low in reaction temperature, energy-saving, and suitable for industrial production.