The invention discloses an abrasion-resistant and scraping-resistant aluminum alloy chromium-free passivating agent and a preparation method thereof. The passivating agent is prepared from, by weight, 5-10 parts of 30-40% hexafluorotitanic acid, 5-10 parts of 40-45% hexafluorozirconic acid, 1-2 parts of polyepoxysuccinic acid, 4-6 parts of sodium gluconate, 1-2 parts of sodium fluoride, 1-2 parts of 65-70% nitric acid, 1-2 parts of Turkey red oil, 1-2 parts of simethicone, 50-100 parts of 40-50% polyethylene wax emulsion, 50-100 parts of coalescing agents and 800-1000 parts of water. According to the aluminum alloy passivating agent, a compact film of a net structure can be formed on the surface of aluminum alloy, excellent strength, tenacity and adhesive capacity are achieved, and the corrosion resistance is good; meanwhile, good abrasion resistance is achieved, abrasion and scraping on the surface of the aluminum alloy can be reduced, environment pollution can be reduced, and good economic benefits and social benefits are achieved.