The invention discloses a crosslinking agent and a preparation method of a crosslinking controllable high-temperature-resistant gel. The crosslinking agent is prepared through the synthetic steps of sequentially adding phenol and a formaldehyde solution into a reaction kettle in a weight ratio of 1:(3.0-3.1), uniformly stirring the obtained mixture, adding an ethylenediamine catalyst into the reaction kettle, and heating the obtained mixture in an oil bath at a temperature of 65-70 DEG C; in the process of reaction, detecting and observing the mixture by using the TLC (Thin-Layer Chromatography), and when trimethylol phenol is completely generated, sequentially adding hexadecyl trimethyl ammonium chloride, epichlorohydrin and a NaOH solution into the reaction kettle; heating the obtained product to 90 DEG C, and reacting for 2 hours. The gel is prepared from the following components in percentage by mass: (1) 0.2-0.7% of polyacrylamide; (2) 0.2-0.6% of a crosslinking agent, namely trimethylolpropane triglycidyl ether; (3) 50-200 ppm of a polyamine crosslinking promoter; (4) the balance of water. According to the invention, the crosslinking agent, namely trimethylolpropane triglycidyl ether, and the polyamine crosslinking promoter are introduced into a gel system for the first time, and the crosslinking promoter can effectively adjust the crosslinking time and promote the gel for further crosslinking so as to increase the strength of the gel, so that a gel which is controllable in crosslinking time, high in strength and high in temperature resistance is obtained.