The invention provides a silicon-oxygen negative electrode material and a preparation method thereof, a negative electrode plate and a secondary battery. The preparation method comprises the steps of S1, adding a silicon-oxygen material into an alkaline solution with the pH value of 8-9 for dispersion, adding dopamine hydrochloride for continuous dispersion, washing, centrifuging and drying to obtain silicon-oxygen dopamine nanoparticles, and sintering the silicon-oxygen dopamine nanoparticles to obtain silicon-oxygen carbon nanoparticles; S2, mixing and stirring the silicon-oxygen carbon nanoparticles and a titanium source, heating, cooling, washing, centrifuging and drying to obtain titanium-silicon-oxygen carbon nanoparticles; and S3, dissolving the titanium-silicon-oxygen carbon nanoparticles in water, carrying out ultrasonic dispersion, then adding dopamine hydrochloride, continuing to dissolve and disperse, then adding a strongly alkaline substance, stirring, washing, centrifuging, and drying to obtain the dopamine modified silicon-oxygen negative electrode material. Compared with the prior art, the obtained negative electrode material has the advantages that the problem of volume expansion of the current silicon material in the charge-discharge process is solved, the structural stability of the silicon material in the charge-discharge process is ensured, and various properties of the battery are improved.