The invention discloses a method for modifying a nano metal oxide by coupling graft, and belongs to the technical field of nano granule surface modification. The nano metal oxide is used as a raw material, N,N'-carbonyl diimidazole (CDI) is used as an activating agent, and a finished product is obtained by simple processes of drying treatment, coupling reaction, separation and purification, coupling graft, re-separation and re-purification. The method has the advantages of simplicity, mild reaction conditions, high grafting efficiency which reaches 87 percent, energy conservation, emission reduction, low cost and suitability for large-scale industrial production. The nano metal oxide prepared by using the method can be widely applied in the fields of rubber, coating, ink, dye, glass, piezoelectric ceramics, photoelectrons, medicament and the like.