The invention relates to a metal surface conditioning agent, which is composed of novel organic acidity, zinc nitrate, sodium molybdate, nicdel nitrate, sodium hydrogenfluoride, phytic acid, a nonionic surfactant and water; the novel organic acidity is the organic acidity obtained by respectively reacting ethene diamine or diethylenetriamine or triethylene tetramine or tetraethylenepentamine with citric acid. A metal surface treatment technology comprises the following steps: preparing the novel organic acidity, and using the novel organic acidity for complex formulation with zinc nitrate, sodium molybdate, nicdel nitrate, sodium hydrogenfluoride, phytic acid, the nonionic surfactant and water to obtain the metal surface conditioning agent. The concrete processing flow comprises the following steps: removing oil, washing, washing, pickling, neutralizing, conditioning surface, treating surface, performing post-treatment on surface or washing, performing air drying. The surface treatment technology can replace the current phosphatization technology, and has the technology advantages of environmental protection and simple operation, and is better than the phosphatization technology from the aspect of technology index.